Great Expectations And Sincere Feelings

Websterís dictionary defines love in many different ways, "A feeling of
intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make
a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. To have a feeling of intense desire and
attraction toward (a person) (Webster, love)". In Great Expectations, Pip is
going through maturity, and is always undergoing maturity. We find that Pip is
always longing for friends, family, and for love. Love can be a number of things
to different people. Love is an emotion, where there is no wrong definition, for
it suits each and every person differently, however some characteristics are the
same amongst everybody. Pip thinks he is in love, but in my paper I investigate
if itís a real desire of infatuation for Estella, or just a first big crush
which lasted through out his teenage years. Pipís love for Estella is usually
a one-way street, at least in his eyes. From the moment Pip meets her, he feels
an attraction towards her. At the same token, Estellaís outward feelings
towards Pip are confusing and cruel. From slapping him in the face as hard as
she can, to making him feel as low as dirt saying he has coarse hands and thick
soles and such, Estella is able to crush Pip inside. He feels as though he
cannot let Estella know how he really feels besides telling Miss Havisham and

Estella her self that she was pretty, yet mean. As time goes on, Pip learns all
about Estella from her attitude and appearance. This attitude and appearance is
what Pip wanted to attain so that Estella would love him. In chapter 17 Pip
tells Biddy " I am not at all happy as I am" (Dickens, 127). He wants to
become a gentleman, a complement to a gentlewoman--Estella. Again telling his
feelings to Biddy, he professes. " the beautiful young lady at Miss

Havishamís. And sheís more beautiful than anybody ever was, and I admire her
dreadfully, and I want to be a gentle man on her account" (Dickens, 129). This
is the first time we learned about Pipís love from Pip. Thus far we assume
that he likes her, but we never actually hear him say it. The reasons, which he
gave Biddy, are his desires, his own infatuation, or a "false love". Pip has
no real ground to like, let alone love Estella since he hardly knows her at all.

All Pip knows is a young girl, which was taught to break menís hearts. Estella
is Miss Havishamís mini me of her self, a heartbroken women who has no
feelings of love, but only hatred in her heart. She taught Estella that men were
bad because of her past, and Estellaís emotions and thoughts we buried under

Miss Havishamís thoughts. This was so early seen in the beginning when Estella
proclaims that Pip is common. At this moment in time, Pip felt bad and Estella
knew it, but past that she says more insulting things in front of Miss Havisham
for she knows it makes her proud keeping her happy. This was horrible because it
kept Estella from ever really loving somebody throughout the whole novel.

Statements like, "Well? Can you break his heart?" (Dickens, 60) which are
the source for identity crises in this book amongst both Pip and Estella alike.

The actions which came from statements by Miss Havisham are what keeps Pip and

Estella constantly going through out constant identity changes, thus making it
almost near to impossible to love. Pip never would be able to get a true grasp
of who she was because she, like him, would change like the direction of wind at
any given time. For a great duration of the novel, Pip is infatuated with

Estella. He thinks he is in love, but with no solid reasons as to why. As a
reader, it can be perceived that Pip being a young man, is going through changes
and is attracted physically to Estella however that can only measure so much of
love. This was shown when Biddy told Pip she liked him, but he opted for

Estella. Pip experienced new feelings, which he never had experienced, feelings
that he doesnít know about. Throughout the book we discover that his false
love controls Pip. His infatuation for Estella inspires him to become an
educated gentleman. We, like Pip have no idea how long he will feel like he does
for Estella. We do know his infatuation is for the wrong reasons. Pip really
didnít have